Not All Opinions Are Tolerable
In every election year, the progressive folk start talking about tolerance. Actually, progressive folk talk about tolerance a lot. It’s kind of our thing.
I’m a Unitarian Universalist, which of course ALSO means that I hear a lot of talk about tolerance. One of our seven principles is that every person has inherent worth and dignity. I believe this on a theoretical level. Some days I even believe it on an actual level. In fact, I always believe it enough to be, for example, anti torture. Congratulations Al-Queda, you have enough inherent worth and dignity that you should NOT be waterboarded!
Here’s the thing, though. Tolerance is great. In all seriousness, obviously you need to treat people well. Don’t be an asshole, is what I’m saying. But I feel like tolerance often gets confused with the idea that all opinions are automatically valid, because TOLERANCE!
But…the thing is not all opinions are valid.
The opinion that women should not have agency over their own bodies and should not be able to make decisions about their own reproductive choices is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that gay folks should not have the same rights as straight folks is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that people of color are somehow less than is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that global warming is not happening is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that torture is acceptable is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that “some women rape good” or it’s the victim’s fault if she was drunk or wearing a miniskirt, is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that religion or football or Boy Scouts gives you the right to cover up the systematic sexual abuse of children is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that religion is an excuse for subjugation of any kind is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
The opinion that hitting children is good parenting is bullshit, and I will not waste time discussing it.
There are lots of things that reasonable people can argue about. The drinking age. Whether marijuana should be legal. How best to improve our schools. Cloth or disposable diapers. Merit pay for teachers. The most ethical way to eat. Whether to use a clicker or just treats to train your dog. How to die well. Whether goat cheese or Parmesan is better. The best kind of chocolate. What animals can be in zoos. Etc etc. And then there are things that are not debatable. There are opinions that are just not tolerable. If you hold these beliefs, well–hold them, fine. But my rights end where yours begin, and if you want to hold them, don’t you even think about putting them on anyone else. I’m tired of hearing about how good progressives or good UUs or whatever are tolerant. We can be tolerant in the sense that we do not hurt others, but that does not mean that we have to put up with opinions that are not tolerable. There is a right and a wrong, at least some of the time. It isn’t always absolute and there are lots of grays and nobody is ever all bad–as they say, even Hitler was a vegetarian–but there are still right and wrong. And the far right? They are just wrong. So yeah, that means I’m not going to respect you if you vote for Romney/Ryan. Because it is not ethical. And I can be tolerant and still assert your inherent worth and dignity if you vote for that ticket–but that doesn’t mean you are right, or that your opinions are tolerable.
This entry was posted on October 19, 2012 by vanessa steck. It was filed under beliefs, bullying, culture, feminism, gay rights, high concepts, jackasses, lgbt, life, Obama, politics, rape, rape culture, sex abuse, sexual harassment, terrorism, war and was tagged with abuse, biden, bin laden, boy scouts, democrats, election, GOP, obama, racism, Rape, republicans, romney, ryan, torture, war.